…we invariably have balls fall!
How often do you hear someone say ‘too many balls in the air.’ Is it really true that we have too many balls in the air? Or, is it that we have the perfect amount of balls in the air and sometimes balls will be dropped as a reality in life? Either way we are juggling balls and not, say, eggs or cell phones so if they fall they don’t break!
If we are fully committed to our families, our communities, our work, and our friends then we will invariably have balls fall. What we have to do is be prepared mentally for this. The you think you can plan for everything then you will be in for a real surprise. I think the headlines in the paper and leading stories on the news illustrate that we can plan but it does not mean that we can have every variable covered.
Yes, balls will hit the ground that we throw up, our spouses toss up, our children heave ho, and so on. Now we have all kinds of balls hitting the ground. It is a juggling nightmare. Yet, we still have some balls up and we are still in the game for those that we care about. It is not the fact that balls are dropping. Rather, are the balls that matter the least dropping. Or, if it is an important ball, figure out how to pick up the right balls.
Forgive yourself early and often if you drop a ball. Each ball dropped is an opportunity to pick up another one and figure out how to keep it in the air. Juggle away. Why not?
It seems that we have very serious business to tend to everyday! No doubt, it is important to meet our obligations with fidelity. Yet, is everything you do everyday that important? Is everything you do require an ‘A’ priority? If not, then begin to think about how you are able to squeeze in the joy of living and not just the work of living. It is easy to get hung up on the details but know that those details will be there later today, tomorrow, and even the next day.
The more we are able to pace ourselves the better. I have some simple steps to help you balance your day:
- Prioritize what you know makes you satisfied or happy first and if it is first thing in the morning that will make you even more satisfied for the day.
- Be sure to have a solid plan for the next two days including family obligations, work obligations, and community obligations and be sure those that need to know know!
- Smile more and greet as many people as you can as they may help you with your obligations.
- Continue planning ahead.
Have Fun because you will always Have Work!
I am most vulnerable to discomfort in a relationship when I fail to communicate the simplest of ideas. I find that if I fail to alert my spouse of a meeting that I am attending after work or double book at work I find myself on the defensive and kicking myself (almost literally!). If we communicate clearly what we have going on during ‘shared’ time we will always be on good footing.
Strategies abound including shared calendars, emails, and texts to alert those on the shared calendar. This seems simple but our lives are not getting less complicated.