Building essential relationships with our families.
Every day I am fortunate to see the exceptional results of our hard working teachers at Pacific Charter Institute. The hard work that our teachers engage in includes instructional strategies designed for the individual child. The hard work that our teachers engage in includes analysis of the results to support the uniqueness of each student and how the instructional message is heard. The hard work that our teachers engage in is building the essential relationship with our families because they know the students the very best.
Thank you teachers for your commitment to our children!
…we invariably have balls fall!
How often do you hear someone say ‘too many balls in the air.’ Is it really true that we have too many balls in the air? Or, is it that we have the perfect amount of balls in the air and sometimes balls will be dropped as a reality in life? Either way we are juggling balls and not, say, eggs or cell phones so if they fall they don’t break!
If we are fully committed to our families, our communities, our work, and our friends then we will invariably have balls fall. What we have to do is be prepared mentally for this. The you think you can plan for everything then you will be in for a real surprise. I think the headlines in the paper and leading stories on the news illustrate that we can plan but it does not mean that we can have every variable covered.
Yes, balls will hit the ground that we throw up, our spouses toss up, our children heave ho, and so on. Now we have all kinds of balls hitting the ground. It is a juggling nightmare. Yet, we still have some balls up and we are still in the game for those that we care about. It is not the fact that balls are dropping. Rather, are the balls that matter the least dropping. Or, if it is an important ball, figure out how to pick up the right balls.
Forgive yourself early and often if you drop a ball. Each ball dropped is an opportunity to pick up another one and figure out how to keep it in the air. Juggle away. Why not?
What I found is that it created a habit for me in exercise. Just showing up made me better.
Have you ever heard the phrase ‘just show up.’ This phrase can be used in different context based on what one is trying to achieve. If I am throwing a party and need more people there, then yes, ‘just show up.’ Yet in this article the idea is focusing on ‘just showing up’ in life.
I learned this lesson when I was younger and there were days that I did not want to get up and run. Either I was carrying a slight injury, maybe tired, or maybe just flat out lazy. A friend of mine said “just show up. Just run a mile.” What I found is that it created a habit for me in exercise. Just showing up made me better.
In our lives with our families, ‘just show up’ carries much more importance. For our children at a recital or wanting to play in the park; JUST SHOW UP. For our kids when they ask about needing help with homework; JUST SHOW UP. For our spouses or significant others who want to talk or go for a walk; JUST SHOW UP.
In all cases, practice makes perfect. It starts today, however, as you need it for yourself and your family and friends need it from you! Get off of the sidelines and JUST SHOW UP!
How do you know?
How do you know how someone feels?
How do you know what someone is thinking?
How do you know whether you are doing a good or bad job?
How do you know whether or not you are an important member of the human race?
How do you know that your family and friends value you?
How do you know that you value yourself?
How do you know?
It seems that we have very serious business to tend to everyday! No doubt, it is important to meet our obligations with fidelity. Yet, is everything you do everyday that important? Is everything you do require an ‘A’ priority? If not, then begin to think about how you are able to squeeze in the joy of living and not just the work of living. It is easy to get hung up on the details but know that those details will be there later today, tomorrow, and even the next day.
The more we are able to pace ourselves the better. I have some simple steps to help you balance your day:
- Prioritize what you know makes you satisfied or happy first and if it is first thing in the morning that will make you even more satisfied for the day.
- Be sure to have a solid plan for the next two days including family obligations, work obligations, and community obligations and be sure those that need to know know!
- Smile more and greet as many people as you can as they may help you with your obligations.
- Continue planning ahead.
Have Fun because you will always Have Work!
When we talk about trust and faith in relationships, we truly are talking about the integrity that we bring to the conversation. If we only live in a pattern of being forthright and honest, we establish a pattern that creates its own momentum and the discussions move forward with little sideways momentum. Yet, if we offer ‘some’ trust and some ‘faith’, we are moving the relationship slowly or not at all.
Think about something as simple as setting up a meeting or a date with a loved one. If I hedge to committing time then I am offering only ‘some’ trust and ‘some’ faith. To offer all that I can offer I would better serve myself and the other person with a clear answer and clear direction. If it is something that I don’t want to do then I need to weigh the value of how the other person ranks it. If it is important for the other person, the trust, faith, and integrity will allow me to say ‘YES’ I will go. If it is something that I value low and the other person merely wants my company I have to weigh my personal pursuits to the OUR pursuits. Certainly MY time is important but so is OUR time.
This also brings us back to balance. If you are balanced then the requests should go both ways with equal congeniality and in many cases, Love. If the other person or I am hedging commitment, the trust, faith, and integrity of the relationship can erode or remain stagnant. Why not say yes and go!
If my life is a disaster I know that I will not be giving my best to my family and friends.
Certainly with the talk of family, forgiveness, and balance there needs to be focus on just us! How are we taking care of ourselves to ensure that we can be the best that we can be for others? This is the most important element from a grounded, personal perspective. If my life is a disaster I know that I will not be giving my best to my family and friends.
My life has five key areas to assist in balance; family, work, community, exercise, and faith and each one of these get my attention every week if not every day. I choose to go to bed earlier so I can wake up early to satisfy exercise and faith. As a Catholic, I enjoy daily mass as it gives me 1/2 hour of connection with my faith uninterrupted. My willingness to volunteer for the Boy Scouts or sports teams for my children allows me both exercise and community involvement so I am also meeting family needs as well. And certainly, we have work and that is a constant even if you are a stay at home mom or dad. Work is work but needs to be treated with the same importance as the other four.
This may sound obtuse considering work is so important. Yet, we have ONE life to live and we can never get that time back. Because of this, reflection is incredibly important to determine how we are doing with the five areas of personal satisfaction. I also realize that people place varying levels of importance on the five areas that I think are important. In fact, some may think some of the areas are absolutely unimportant. With that, I ask you to honestly ask yourself, “are you absolutely happy and satisfied?”
I would like to put a special plug about hitting the exercise in the morning. By doing this, I know that I will not be competing with the other four constants in my life in the afternoon or at night. There are plenty of bloggers and articles about the value of exercising in the morning to support this notion but from a practical perspective it works for me.
How can you achieve family, work, community, exercise, and faith every week? What can you do to change your routine so you can meet your needs and the needs of those around you?
Shoot me some ideas on how you are balancing your life.